Messages from our Birth Families

 A letter from the Birth mother of the girls

Michelle and Roger came into my life very suddenly and unexpectedly but we bonded right away. I was pregnant with my firstborn; I was scared and I had no idea what was involved in the adoption world. But they were kind, and patient and encouraged us to meet with other couples instead of just making a decision right away. Aside from all of the sweet and common things to say about an adoptive couple, like how loving and supportive they are (which is 10000% true) Michelle and Roger are ridiculously loud and funny, open minded and genuine! As is Jackson! Life isn’t perfect, it isn’t for anyone. The transparency they give me makes me feel secure in my decision. I placed my second daughter without question just a little while later because I knew in my heart that’s where she was meant to be. 

Knowing what’s going on not only in my girls’ lives, but in theirs as well makes me feel like they care more about well-being and comfort over a facade that needs to be put up. 

We’re now just one big family! I was terrified of having to navigate such unfamiliar territory but I wouldn’t change it for the world. The relationship we have established and nurtured is beyond beautiful. I literally talk about how blessed I was to find a couple that wanted what’s best for absolutely everyone involved ALL OF THE TIME. I now volunteer for birth mother panels and conferences to talk about the ups and downs and overall beauty that is open adoption. And now here we are, almost 5 years later. They are raising both of my daughters alongside Jackson; I have peace of mind every day that they are loved and never too far away for a hug and kiss. I couldn’t recommend a family more than I could the Spencer’s.

A letter from the Birth Grandmother of the girls

I met the Spencer’s when my entire world was spinning out of control. Fear, anxiety, confusion and yes, anger were consuming my every thought. Our first grandchild was coming and all we knew was that our daughter was determined to find a family that would not only love, nurture, and protect that precious human, but allow her (and us) to keep in contact as the years went by.

Little did we know what a blessing was in store for all of us. It was a casual meeting at IHOP one afternoon to talk about how the open adoption journey Roger & Michelle were experiencing with their son Jackson had changed their lives. We talked about the fear, we talked about the anxiety, and even about the anger. But, through all that, we saw the love & beauty that open adoption can truly be.

My heart knew immediately that the Spencer’s were the one, even while they encouraged my daughter to meet other prospective couples. Their unconditional love for not only their children, but for the birth families as well, has been beyond anything I could have imagined this journey would be for us.

The Spencer’s are forever a part of my life, and I am so grateful! They have been a constant reminder that there is hope in a world filled with hopelessness. They have welcomed us into their family and allowed us to build a beautiful relationship with Jackson, Kennedy & Madison. I cannot imagine my life without them, and I thank the Lord everyday for encouraging me to go to IHOP that afternoon.   

Notes from an interview of Jackson's Birth Mom

Through texting, Abby wrote: The Spencers are very great family it's been a wonderful experience not only do I get to see our son on special days but I also got love and support of my family the Spencers and the other birth mother Megan.

Abby does better with conversation rather than writing or typing. So to better fit her needs, I gave her a bit of an interview over the phone. We talked about how our open adoption relationship has changed over the years and how we love how it is now. She expressed how she loves having a relationship with Jackson and how much they have in common. She was also very open about talking to any potential Birth families about her feelings, her experiences, and her journey as a birth mom.